When I met my husband we were in high school and there was a lot of discussion about our hopes and dreams. At 17 & 18, we were full of our dreams and hope for what our future would hold. I knew he wanted to be a firefighter. I knew I would one day be a firewife. I technically knew what I was getting into. I was marrying a firefighter. What I didn’t know was there would be times I felt I was coming in second or third place on the priority list.
Once it happened, we were both so happy that his dream, our dream was a reality that how could I ever regret the choice? I hit a point I expected to be second or third to the station and the community.
Your honeymoon is probably over and now, real life is here. It feels like you’ve spent more time as number three lately than you ever imagined. Your emotions are running high. You’ve been let down one more time and you catch yourself on the verge of saying it “YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT ME!”
It’s that moment girlfriend when you need me. Because I understand. You can say it to me. You can share every hurt feeling. Every insecure thought. Share it with me.
So that, you can go back and remind yourself I’m a YES to THIS. I’m a yes to this marriage. I’m a yes to his priorities. He’s a firefighter and I’m a firewife. And that means, you don’t lay that shit on him when he walks in the door because you’ve had a horrible day.
That girlfriend is when you need me.
Are you overwhelmed taking care of the day to day?
I’ve been talking firewives off the ledge online since 2008 through emails, blog posts and in more recent years a very active Facebook group.
I know that many women aren’t comfortable sharing things publicly. Especially when it comes to talking negatively about their firefighter. I get it. I don’t talk a lot about current relationship issues except with my inner circle of firewives.
I get the overwhelm. For the first 7 years of him being a firefighter I had no other wives to chat with and commiserate. I had no idea if what I was dealing with was normal, if I was doing it right, or if I was completely screwing things up and causing more trouble than I needed to. I merely survived the day to day and then when it built up, I lost my shit and we started filling the day to day back up again.
Woo, it was a rough road and I don’t want others to feel that way when there’s no need.
Feel like you’re sinking?
Feeling alone with a crazy busy life is a little private hell. Spinning in circles and not moving forward is frustrating. Sometimes there is just a lot on your plate and you need an unbiased ear to listen and help you work life out.
The daily crap can pile on and when you are sinking you just spiral down as it piles on top of you. Then it’s full survival mode and you are kicking and screaming to get back on your feet. OMG why the hell isn’t he here to help more?!
This is where I can help as your coach.
I AM HERE FOR YOU!
I know those words above can be really freaking powerful. When you feel alone and like no one in the effing world can understand, know that I do and that I am here for you.
I’m here to listen.
I’m here to commiserate.
THEN? I’m here to kick your butt into shape and remind you what the fight is for.
Your Coaching Program Includes:
- an initial 1 hour life assessment and goal mapping session. Let’s acknowledge where you are, define where you want to be and I want to connect with what you really want.
- 3 x 20 minute coaching sessions. Each a month we will chat by phone or in a live webinar room.
- Unlimited email coaching. M-Fri from 8am-4pm you can send me an email to check in or ask questions. Being an internet addict, I’m sure to respond very quickly.
- personalized weekly assignments to move you forward
- worksheets and other resources to support your process
Monthly coaching starts at $275.
Ready to enjoy this crazy firelife
This life is crazy, but it doesn’t have to take your sanity. Schedule a free 15 minute chat right now and we’ll see if coaching is the answer for YOU. If we’re a fit, then I’ll send you the link to purchase coaching.