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Fitness and Choices

You have the perfect plan in place and the house is full of healthy foods. You are READY to rock this new fitness and weight loss. You get after it. Week one is hard, but you do it. Week two? The kids have practice every day this week. There are two basketball games....

It Can Be Hard To Set Smart Goals

Did you set a big goal this New Years? You were going to get it done in 2018. How many times in the past have you set a huge goal such as to lose 50 pounds or exercise 5 days a week, only to fall off the wagon a few weeks (or usually days) later? Why did you fail? A...

Mind Over Matter!

Mind over matter!  I find myself clinging to that mantra a lot as a FireWife.  Especially with the history my firefighter husband and I endured.  The past can never truly be buried deep enough.  It always seems to nudge it's way through my thoughts as I go about my...

Wait, you BOTH work shift work?

A little over 2 years ago, I got this crazy idea to apply for a different type of job than I had previously been working.  For years, I worked at the local community hospital as an ED nurse on an "as needed" basis.  As our children got a little older, I started...

Laundry Basket Fortress

It's a never ending cycle. Wash. Dry. Throw it in a basket. Maybe take it upstairs. If you're lucky you have a main floor laundry. Sometimes you have to scramble 2 minutes before needing to leave to find the matching sock for the three year old and oh wait..the baby...

Are you overwhelmed taking care of the day to day?

Feel like you’re sinking?

Feeling alone with a crazy busy life is a private hell. Spinning in circles and not moving forward is frustrating. Sometimes there is just a lot on your plate and you need an unbiased ear to listen and help you work life out.

The daily crap can pile on and when you are sinking you just spiral down as it piles on top of you. Then it’s full survival mode and you are kicking and screaming to get back on your feet. OMG why the hell isn’t he here to help more?!

This is where I can help as your coach.

 

I AM HERE FOR YOU!

I know those words above can be really freaking powerful. When you feel alone and like no one in the fucking world can understand, know that I do and that I am here for you.

I’m here to listen.

I’m here to commiserate.

THEN? I’m here to kick your butt into shape and remind you what the fight is for.

Happiness baby

Because happiness is a choice we make. Every day.

Life throws a ton of shit our way and it’s a conscious choice to choose to be happy.

 

When will you decide happiness is your number one priority?

No one can choose for you. You need to do the work and it needs to be right. But dammit, wake the fuck up and be happy. It’s depressing for me to talk to 100’s of women each day that are totally cool in their lives they aren’t happy in. NO, who had time for that shit?

When I met my husband we were in high school and there was a lot of discussion about our hopes and dreams. At 17 & 18, we were full of our dreams and hope for what our future would hold. I knew he wanted to be a firefighter. I knew I would one day be a firewife. I technically knew what I was getting into. I was marrying a firefighter. What I didn’t know was there would be times I felt I was coming in second or third place on the priority list.

Once it happened, we were both so happy that his dream, our dream was a reality that how could I ever regret the choice? I hit a point I expected to be second or third to the station and the community.

Your honeymoon is probably over and now, real life is here. It feels like you’ve spent more time as number three lately than you ever imagined. Your emotions are running high. You’ve been let down one more time and you catch yourself on the verge of saying it “YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT ME!”

It’s that moment girlfriend when you need me. Because I understand. You can say it to me. You can share every hurt feeling. Every insecure thought. Share it with me.

So that, you can go back and remind yourself I’m a YES to THIS. I’m a yes to this marriage. I’m a yes to his priorities. He’s a firefighter and I’m a firewife. And that means, you don’t lay that shit on him when he walks in the door because you’ve had a horrible day.

That girlfriend is when you need me.

I’ve been talking firewives off the ledge online since 2008 through emails, blog posts and in more recent years a very active Facebook group.

I know that many women aren’t comfortable sharing things publicly. Especially when it comes to talking negatively about their firefighter. I get it. I don’t talk a lot about current relationship issues except with my inner circle of firewives.

I get the overwhelm. For the first 7 years of him being a firefighter I had no other wives to chat with and commiserate. I had no idea if what I was dealing with was normal, if I was doing it right, or if I was completely screwing things up and causing more trouble than I needed to. I merely survived the day to day and then when it built up, I lost my shit and we started filling the day to day back up again.

Whoo, it was a rough road and I don’t want others to feel that way when there’s no need.

I’m not looking to change you

I’m really not. If you are happy where you are at, then you wouldn’t have read this far down the sales page.

I know you are unhappy and I want to change that. I choose happiness for you and it’s time you fucking chose it for yourself as well.

Being unhappy and letting life happen to you is miserable.

But what if you choose happy?

What if you CHOOSE HAPPY?

The happiness is endless

Once you decide what makes you happy and you go for it, the rest of life follows to fit in.

Your epic life adjusts and happens.

No joke.

I’m as blunt as they come while still remembering you have feelings. Shit may hit the fan, but happiness is the objective. I’m not saying if you are a hard core case it might take longer, but I am saying if you commit it can happen.

No commitment is why marriages are failing left and right.

No happiness is why marriages fail.

Be happy. Share the happy.

But most of all, be present.

Your Coaching Program Includes:

Initial 1 hour life assessment and goal mapping session. Let’s acknowledge where you are, define where you want to be and I want to connect with what you really want. We will get on the phone or in my zoom room for our chat. This call is scheduled within 3 days, so be ready to schedule.

  • Secret Facebook Group. I will set up a secret Facebook group with just the two of us to discuss anything you need 24/7. I’m on FB way more than I should be so you have access to me most hours of the day and night quickly.
  • Personalized weekly assignments to move you forward on the goals we figure out.
  • Worksheets and other resources to support your process as we go. Specific worksheets created for you and where your goals are going.
  • Membership to the FireWife Club.

$275 a month. 1 more spot available

Ready to enjoy this crazy firelife?

This life is crazy, but it doesn’t have to take your sanity. If you are ready, then let’s get your private coaching set up immediately and your call scheduled. It’s time to be a happier YOU!