Are you overwhelmed taking care of the day to day?
Feel like you’re sinking?
Feeling alone with a crazy busy life is a private hell. Spinning in circles and not moving forward is frustrating. Sometimes there is just a lot on your plate and you need an unbiased ear to listen and help you work life out.
The daily crap can pile on and when you are sinking you just spiral down as it piles on top of you. Then it’s full survival mode and you are kicking and screaming to get back on your feet. OMG why the hell isn’t he here to help more?!
This is where I can help as your coach.
I AM HERE FOR YOU!
I know those words above can be really freaking powerful. When you feel alone and like no one in the world can understand, know that I do and that I am here for you.
I’m here to listen.
I’m here to commiserate.
THEN? I’m here to kick your butt into shape and remind you what the fight is for.
Because happiness is a choice we make every day.
Life throws a ton of shit our way and it’s a conscious choice to choose to be happy.
When will you decide happiness is your number one priority?
No one can choose for you. You need to do the work and make changes.
Do you know what would make you happier?
That does end up being a problem for many a FireWife. Your spouse knew what he wanted and you may have been a crucial part in him hitting that goal. But then you didn't even look at what you'd love to do or you pushed your dreams aside and buried them.
Time to dig them out and see what you want to achieve.
When I met my husband we were in high school and there was a lot of discussion about our hopes and dreams. At 17 & 18, we were full of our dreams and hope for what our future would hold. I knew he wanted to be a firefighter. I knew I would one day be a FireWife. I technically knew what I was getting into. I was marrying a firefighter. What I didn’t know was there would be times I felt I was coming in second or third place on the priority list.
Once it happened, we were both so happy that his dream, our dream was a reality and how could I ever regret the choice? I hit a point I expected to be second or third to the station and the community. Those were really low points. And totally untrue.
Your honeymoon is probably over and now, real life is here. It feels like you’ve spent more time as number three lately than you ever imagined. Your emotions are running high. You’ve been let down one more time and you catch yourself on the verge of saying “YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT ME!”
It’s that moment girlfriend when you need me. Because I understand. You can say it to me. You can share every hurt feeling. Every insecure thought. Share it with me.
So that, you can go back and remind yourself I’m a YES to THIS. I’m a yes to this marriage. I’m a yes to his priorities. He’s a firefighter and I’m a firewife. And that means, you don’t lay that shit on him when he walks in the door because you’ve had a horrible day.
That lady is when you need me.
I’ve been talking FireWives off the metophorical ledge online since 2008 through emails, blog posts, private conversations, and coaching. I've helped 1000's of women in the very active Facebook group that was opened in 2013.
I know that many women aren’t comfortable sharing things publicly. Especially when it comes to what they think of as talking negatively about their firefighter. I get it. I don’t talk a lot about current relationship issues except with my inner circle of FireWives.
I get the overwhelm. For the first 7 years of him being a firefighter I had no other wives to chat with and commiserate. I had no idea if what I was dealing with was normal, if I was doing it right, or if I was completely screwing things up and causing more trouble than I needed to. I merely survived the day to day and then when it built up, I lost my shit and we started filling the day to day back up again.
Whoo, it was a rough road and I don’t want others to feel that way when there’s no need.
I’m not looking to change you.
I’m really not. If you are happy where you are at, then you wouldn’t have read this far down the page to find out how to get help.
I know you are unhappy and I want to change that. I choose happiness for you and it’s time you chose it for yourself as well.
Being unhappy and letting life just happen is miserable.
But what if you choose happy?
WHAT IF YOU CHOOSE HAPPY?
The happiness is endless once you decide what makes you happy and you go for it, the rest of life follows to fit in.
Your epic life adjusts and happens.
I’m as blunt as they come while still remembering you have feelings. Shit may hit the fan, but happiness is the objective. I’m not saying if you are a hard core case it might take longer, but I am saying if you commit it can happen.
No commitment is why marriages are failing left and right.
No happiness is why marriages fail.
Be happy. Share the happy.
But most of all, be present.
Your Coaching Program Includes:
Initial 1 hour life assessment and goal mapping session. Let’s acknowledge where you are, define where you want to be and I want to connect with what you really want. We will get in my zoom room for our chat. This needs to be scheduled within 3 days, so have your calendar ready.
- 2 private 50-minute sessions a month.
- Daily voxer coaching. Voxer is a walkie-talkie app that we can send quick messages 24/7 as things pop up.
$597 a month
Ready to enjoy this crazy firelife?
This life is crazy, but it doesn’t have to take your sanity. If you are ready, then let’s get your private coaching set up immediately and your call scheduled. It’s time to be a happier YOU!
Schedule a free 15 minute chat and see if we're a good fit to work together.