You have to have compassion as a firewife, no way around that if you want it to work.
Being attracted to a first responder tends to mean you are a personality that wants to help others as well.
It can be difficult to hear some of the stories of what our spouses witness. They see really horrible events. But instead of the compassion you feel for those that were injured, try to focus it on your firefighter. THEY need your sympathy as they retell their story.
It's not easy to block out the tragedies they share. In fact, you won't be able to block all of them. But if they are sharing, then they needed to talk it out and I hope you are the first person they want to talk to.
Compassion as a firewife is about taking care of them and their misfortune. Alleviate any suffering our firefighters may be feeling so they can go out on the next call.
Holly R says
I think the compassion that i have for my husband is just simply my love for him. I never really think about what it is that he needs but it’s like an instinct.
How could we not be an example of compassion when they are our other half….they set an amazing example for us each and every day what it is to love our neighbors, help when needed and always be thankful for what you have, because if they are called….there’s a pretty good chance that someone has just lost everything that they hold dear.
I count each day with my husband as a blessing and try to listen when he needs me and make sure that he has a reason each day to smile. Some days are not always easy and it’s a struggle but he’s always worth it.
Val, this is why WBF is so important….when FireWives have a place to turn for support, we are better prepared for the hard times always knowing that someone can help me to help him. Thank you.
Yes, it helps a lot to know someone is in the same boat with you 🙂