You Are A Priority

The best way to live is as your true self

OMG, the fire dept takes over everything!

How many times have you felt that way?

Week after week we are holding the house and ourselves together. If you are like many FireWives, you put yourself last saying there isn't time to focus on you. Am I right?

I'm here to tell you, from experience, that working on ourselves makes the rest of our lives easier.

But, where do you even start after years of no or at best minimal self-care?

How do you get over feeling the fire dept comes before you?

Can you learn to enjoy the FireLife and even embrace it? 

First, Stop Blaming The FireLife

We make choices and it's time to choose you. There's no doubt the fire dept is a big part of our life, but it does not need to take it over. You choose where you want to prioritize and doing so increases your happiness.

  • You can find what makes you happy and create more of it.
  • You can create positive habits to improve your mood and give you direction.
  • You can learn amazing communication skills to improve your marriage.

I believe that we always need to be working on ourselves and growing. The more we do this, the happier we are. It becomes easier to improve ourselves and this leads to being a positive influence on everyone we come in contact with.

Introducing Fabulous FireWife Monthly

Taking better care of ourselves is not a one and done project. Without accountability and someone to help us focus it can be easy to fall right back into poor habits and a victim mentality.

I want you to enjoy a positive mindset change. The kind of change that you look back on negative times in your life and no longer beat yourself up. It happened, we'll learn from it and let it go.

Each month we will have a new workshop focused on your personal growth. Some workshops may be easy for you. It could be something you enjoy or have already put some work in. Others will take you out of your comfort zone and be a bit scary. New things are scary and it is so much easier to just hang on to old habits and beliefs.

These workshops are created so you can recognize how amazing you are and the gifts that make you uniquely YOU!

FireWife, I want you to remember that you are a priority.

Who is this group coaching for?

  • Do you feel like you are drowning in the firelife and alone?
  • Do you start great habits, but quickly fall back into old ways?
  • Are you looking for new ways to improve your life?

I love running group coaching programs because you never know who in the group is going to have some amazing insight to share from their experiences. I love the connections and friendships that are made in groups of women with the same goal.

Like I said, there will be months that the workshop is difficult. That's when the topic really connects with you and you need to pay the most attention. If you are open to communicating through the blocks and issues then this program is for you. I and others in the group will hold your hand as you work through it and cheer the loudest when you break on through.

It's time to stop blaming the FireLife for having no time and being lonely. We make the time for things we feel are important. I'm a hell yes to making the time for you, are you a hell yes to making the time for yourself?

Let's Get To Know Each Other

I am what I post. I’m not great at mincing words. I’m honest. I’m also an open book. If you ask me a question, don’t be surprised when I answer with what everyone else was thinking, but wouldn’t say. Or with my exact life experience on the topic in detail I wish our elders had shared so we can stop reinventing the wheel.

I’m comfortable in my own skin and not ashamed of my honesty. But it took some work to get to that point. Years of people telling me I was too loud and opinionated are just two battles I had to win within myself. 


The firelife constantly changes our day and schedule. Learning to adapt and grow with it has been a sanity saver.


I've gone through the years of raising the kids in the firelife, academy, probation, mandatory OT, volunteer calls always at the worst times, and the days of loneliness after the kids grew up. I've ranted, raged and cried along the way because I didn't have anyone to tell me to put my big girl panties on.


I've been the queen of pity parties and all they did was make me a miserable person. I was so focused on everyone else that I thought of self-care as being selfish. It's something most of us feel even though we intellectually know it's not true. Generations of women not taking care of themselves has led us to this point where we can't figure out what we want.

Joining Fabulous FireWife Monthly Gives You:

  • Access to me 24/7 in the private Facebook group where you can ask me questions and we can work through any issues you have popping up.
  • Monthly workshop to boost your self-confidence and remind you how fabulous you are.
  • Private Facebook group of FireWives committed to being their most fabulous self.
  • Accountability for goals you want to hit.
  • Daily gratitude post to focus on that positive mindset that creates huge change.

June Workshop

limiting beliefs workshop

We are always the one's holding ourselves back. And for various, difficult reasons. We're going to work through those reasons and learn to continue to work through them. 

Every time we go for a new goal and get out of our comfort zone, something will pop up to "protect" us and keep us comfy. Knowing that limiting belief is all in our head means we can go grab our dreams!

Learn to be happy again.

Give it 14 days. If you aren't happy with the membership, I'll refund you with no questions asked.

You have nothing to lose ;)


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