We lead busy lives and have all sorts of obligations as parents, professionals, daughters and friends. It’s easy to lose yourself in everything that has to be done in any given week. As FireWives we are often doing it all alone, which makes it even more important to take me time. While it’s great to give and spend lots of time with loved ones, there is a time and place when you should slow down and do something that right now you may consider selfish.
Treat yourself and spend some “me” time.
Don’t feel guilty about it. In fact if you feel any guilt, you just message me so I can smack you around a little bit. I know for a fact, it will make you a better parent, a better colleague, a better friend and a better spouse We all need to recharge and we need to do something just for ourselves on a regular basis. It doesn't have to be a huge production. Hiding in our bathroom to take a hot bath for 15 minutes and read in silence was a dream at a certain point in my life.
If taking time for yourself to do something that you enjoy and that relaxes you isn’t something you’re doing right now, figure out what you may want to do. Maybe it’s reading a good book or watching your favorite TV show. Maybe it’s getting back into a hobby you used to enjoy. Maybe it’s taking a nap. Maybe it’s a simple as having 10 minutes to sit by yourself and think, or thumb through a magazine. It could be going off for the weekend with your girlfriends.
Your first task is to find out what it is you want to do for yourself. Time to do what you enjoy is always a favorite. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time and it doesn’t have to involve anything complicated. Sure, a trip to the beach by yourself for a week would be great, but if that’s not an option, curling up on the couch with a glass of great wine and a good book will do.
Treating yourself to a new haircut, a pretty dress, a new gadget, or something that will help you enjoy your hobby more is another great option. Or keep it super simple, and pick up a favorite treat that you don’t have to share while you’re out doing the grocery shopping. Better yet, go to lunch all alone!
The point I’m trying to make is that it’s ok to treat yourself and do something for the sole purpose of making you happy. While a piece of fancy chocolate may not seem like that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things, treating yourself well, and caring for yourself can have a huge impact on the rest of your day and how you treat those around you. Give it a try. Do something nice for yourself and watch your happiness levels go up.
Homework: What will you do within the next 3 days just for yourself? What is something a little bigger you can plan out within the next few months?
Let's be happy!
PS – If you can't figure out what would make you happy, check out my What Do I Want? workshop.