Question this week:
How do you help the kids when they are worried about Dad?
My kids don’t really get worried about him. They get excited to hear about his calls. They want to know about every single one. I’d imagine if they start to feel anxious or worried, I’d remind them how well trained their daddy is and then I would find ways to distract and make the situation light. They’ve seen the movies, they know there is risk. But my kids, who were all adopted, have lived trauma and they don’t need to be in that place every time he goes on shift.
The kids were 4 and 2 when he became a firefighter. Young enough that they don’t know much of a time when he wasn’t going on calls.
They are old now so this is digging way back in the memory and so much of that time is a blur because of how busy life was. I can vaguely remember maybe one time the oldest was worried. He was a volunteer then and that means they usually knew what the call was he was going on. They heard the call, maybe got to yell a “love you daddy” and then within a couple of minutes we heard the siren take off.
I can only vaguely remember one night where one of the kids was really upset. I can’t even remember which one it was now. Between all the hours working his regular job and the volunteer time, he was gone a lot. One of them was really overtired and that led to worry popping up and a full melt down.
All I could do was hold them while they cried and tried to tell me their worries. Then tell them the same thing I tell everyone else. People need Dads help and he likes helping people. That they know how much training he goes to and who goes on calls with him (thankfully they did know one or two) and that all of this will help keep him safe.
If it did come up again, the discussion would have gone the same way. It’s ok for them to be scared and worried. It’s definitely good for them to get it out and know they can talk to you about it.
Have you had to deal with worried kids?