I support FireWives ​truthfully.

You can’t pour from an empty cup. Make sure your needs are met to better meet theirs.


Confidence and a positive mindset make a huge difference in your happiness. You can absolutely learn to create the life of your dreams AND enjoy the firelife schedule.

Ditch the Whining


Whining about all the crap that we have no control over gets old. It ruins relationships and makes you miserable for so many reason. How about you give up on the whining and get to making changes?


How we choose to live this life is up to us. Instantly download the free “Don’t be a whiny FireWife” ebook now and get tips for being happier every day.

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Val Selby

Empowerment Coach

About Me

I've been the queen of pity parties and all they did was make me a miserable person. I was so focused on everyone else for years that I thought of self-care as being selfish. It's something most of us feel even though we intellectually know it's not true. Generations of women not taking care of themselves has led us to this point where we can't figure out what we want.


I’m comfortable in my own skin and not ashamed of my honesty. But it took some work to get to that point. Years of people telling me I was too loud and opinionated are just two battles I had to win within myself. 

Be A Fabulous FireWife

Each month we will have a new workshop focused on your personal growth. Some workshops may be easy for you. It could be something you enjoy or have already put some work in. Others will take you out of your comfort zone and be a bit scary. New things are scary and it is so much easier to just hang on to old habits and beliefs.

These workshops are created so you can recognize how amazing you are and the gifts that make you uniquely YOU!

FireWife, I want you to remember that you are a priority.

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I wish I had found you when I was a young firewife with a bunch of kids, running around like a crazy person because he was gone so often.?

Instead I found you later and rather than helping me navigate those early years you helped me come to terms with the last years of his career.

Dawn H.

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I'm thankful for the workshops Val Selby puts on. She's really helped me think things through and make some real changes in my life. I'm calmer and happier and things are definitely looking up.

Laurie S.

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