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I support FireWives truthfully.

No blowing smoke at you or using scare tactics to get you to conform to my way of thinking. We all have our own path to take based on our experiences.

I have decades of personal experience as a FireWife and gladly share things that have worked and not worked for myself. I've been listening and working with 1000's of FireWives online since 2008 and can share different ideas to try in similar situations.

I'm grateful for an amazing community where retired FireWives wish to stay and share their tips and experience with the next generations!

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Tips For The New FireWife: Academy

When my Husband and I met I knew being a Firefighter was his dream job. Like any girl I found this to be extremely attractive. The hiring process where we are from is extreme difficult and long. You go through

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Nosy People

Time to get Fireside Chats back up and rolling. This week's question is about nosy people. Those ones that want to know everything going on about calls and if your firefighter went on it. Each week we have been getting

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Firefighter King To My Crown

I don't like poems, but this one speaks to me with every single word. I know for a FireWife site it might be coming off as odd to be posting about it. The things in the poem are an internal

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Val Selby

Empowerment Coach

About Me

I've been the queen of pity parties and all they did was make me a miserable person. I was so focused on everyone else for years that I thought of self-care as being selfish. Generations of FireWives doing everything alone and not passing on what they've learned has made many bitter wives out there. Time for that to change.

It's time for those of us in the latter years of the service to share what we've learned and the younger generation to help us see how times are changing right this moment. Join me as we make great changes in how our spouses work and how we deal with it all.

I wish I had found you when I was a young firewife with a bunch of kids, running around like a crazy person because he was gone so often.?

Instead I found you later and rather than helping me navigate those early years you helped me come to terms with the last years of his career.

Dawn H.

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I'm thankful for the workshops Val Selby puts on. She's really helped me think things through and make some real changes in my life. I'm calmer and happier and things are definitely looking up.

Laurie S.

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