Hey, I’m Val. I’ve been helping the FireWife community since 2008.

Unlike many others, I take a stand that we are NEVER second to the fire dept or our spouses “calling”. What we do in this life is just as important as what they do. How we choose to live this life is up to us.

val selby owner wife behind the fire — Val selby

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I support FireWives truthfully.

No blowing smoke at you or using scare tactics to get you to conform to my way of thinking. We all have our own path to take based on our experiences.

I have decades of personal experience as a FireWife and gladly share things that have worked and not worked for myself. I've been listening and working with 1000's of FireWives online since 2008 and can share different ideas to try in similar situations.

I'm grateful for an amazing community where retired FireWives wish to stay and share their tips and experience with the next generations!