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Allene Broward, Fire Wife
“No one told me marriage would feel this lonely.
He’s always recovering from a shift, preparing for the next one, or gone.
It feels like he gives everything to the job and there’s nothing left for me”.
“I don’t want to be distant or withdrawn.
I see stuff no one should see.
I go numb so I don’t fall apart.
Can anyone show me how to be normal?”
“He’s never home.
When he is home, all we do is fight.
Why can’t he see that I need his help?”
“At the station I know what to do and what is expected of me. At home I feel like I don’t fit in.
A lot changes in 48 hours while I’m gone.
I want to help but when I try, she says I don’t do it right so now I don’t bother?
Why can’t there be SOPs for home?“
“I feel like I have to do everything, but no matter how hard I try he always finds fault.”
“Scene safety, it’s drilled into our heads. Pause, assess, find the danger.
If there’s a way to shut it off or tone it down at home, I sure wish someone would tell me.”
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Whether you are in the early stages of your relationship and are just getting to know each other, or you have been in the trenches of first responder marriage for years, the tips and tools in this course can help you keep or rediscover the feelings that brought you together as a couple, navigate the challenges of kids and careers, and see you through to retirement with your marriage and your sanity intact.
START TODAYThe strategies are adapted from evidence-based techniques used in business and education combined with an understanding of human behavior and adapted to meet the unique needs of first responders and their families.
This course is designed for the first responder spouse who loves their partner but feels:
alone
neglected
taken for granted
...and always coming second to the job and the department.
It’s for those of you who know you can’t change the job and wouldn’t change your first responder spouse because the things that make them able to do the job are the things you fell in love with, but you just wish you didn’t feel invisible so often.