Are you grumpy?
Are you bitter?
Are you resenting the firelife?
Are you non-stop worried about your firefighter?
Being a firewife means you’ve come to terms a bit with mortality. Whether you hear it through the calls they go on or worry about their safety. The worry is there and you learn to push it aside or it eats you up. Some learn to live with it better than others. It’s all in how you let that worry take over.
That worry should never take over your days. You need to choose to live with no regrets and own your days. Own how you think. Own how you react. Own your happiness.
POSITIVES OF BEING A FIREWIFE
There are so many positives.
- entire bed to yourself
- chickflicks whenever you want
- reading before bed and not annoying anyone with the light
- remote is yours, ALL YOURS
- scheduling girls’ night for shift days or drill night
If you can’t immediately think of things in your life, please go ask your firefighter why they do it. That should quickly jolt your thinking. For me the number one is, he’s doing what he loves. He could have died in a car wreck at anytime while he was on that horrible commute to the job he hated, but now I know he’s doing what he always wanted to do.
A real switch takes place when you take it public. You’ll have access to the private Facebook group where we all post things we are grateful for each day. If you’re having a rough day it’s a great place to stop by and be reminded that your day wasn’t entirely bad.
WHY YOU NEED TO PRACTICE GRATITUDE:
- It reminds you what is good in the world
- It reminds you what is good in your community
- It reminds you what is good in your house
THE REASON YOU SHOULD KNOW THIS GRATITUDE:
- You will continue the good in your house and expand on it.
- You will see the good in your community and work to help it.
- You will find the good in the world and push yourself to better it.
So Who Am I to talk?
My name is Val Selby and I’ve been in the firelife since 2000. Starting as a volunteer wife when our kids were only 3 & 1. There was no where to go for support and neither of us had any idea what we were getting into. For 7 years I held down the house as he worked a ton in his construction job with a horrible commute and then also worked a busy volunteer station. Those of you that love a volunteer firefighter understand that frustration. It’s hard to find the positives when you feel like you are drowning most days.
In 2007 he was hired on and we jumped into a giant transition. 24, 48, 72 hours without him home, then holy crap all the other days of him being HOME. Constant adjustment and that is something that never ends in the firelife. Unfortunately being hired on brought more fears. Fears that were justified when our Chief died in a wildfire. Fears that I had put out of my head because stuff happens in other departments, not in our little department.
At that time I had already chosen to live a life of no regrets because of losing some family members I was close to. But the next two years were a huge test to our marriage and for me personally. I focused on all the negative around me. I was not a nice person to be around.Those that know me, know I’m not going to tell you that every day is unicorns and rainbows. But, that’s why we have to focus on even the smallest positive every day. We can’t get smothered by the firelife.
I know living with gratitude works. I know from personal experience that it will lesson the worry and fear in your life when you aren't solely focused on everything that has or can go wrong.
Here is what firewives in the FireLife Gratitude group have to say:
HOW IT WORKS
Every day a prompt will be in the private Facebook group. You can post using that prompt or something else you are grateful for today. You can post as many gratitude posts as you want!
Life gets ugly and we combat it by posting everything good in our day. Big stuff like the kids getting into college. Little stuff like you got 5 minutes to drink your coffee in peace. We want to hear about it all. I can’t even put a value on the Facebook group thanks to the wonderful women that post regularly.
For those of you that like to paper journal (ME TOO!) You will have new printables each month to use for journaling and planning. I include a goals sheet, journal page and notes page for you to instantly download and get to writing. You never know what other printables may be included in any given month. I love printables lol
I refuse to just let you purchase and then fade away. I want to see you posting in our private Facebook group. Our little group has many postings daily sharing their gratitudes.
What is included in the FireLife Gratitude membership?
Private Facebook Group - this is where the gratitude is going on. It's a positive post only group.
Daily gratitude prompts - every day there will be a prompt posted in the Facebook group for you to respond to or come up with your own gratitude
Printable Pages - each month there is a new set of printable pages which will include a goals sheet, journal and notes pages. Plus you never know what other fun printables I will include on top of that. I love doodle pages
Join now and be more grateful for only
$5 a month...
or scroll down for a second option
Yearly Option and Save
I know many do not like a monthly subscription and I totally understand that. It's a lot easier to pay and know it's done.
I set up a yearly membership option that saves you $10 and includes the FireLife Gratitude Journal package.
Purchase the yearly option and package for $50
I bet you are a little curious what the all in member package includes.
See all of this started with my writing the Firelife Gratitude journal to help us focus on the positives in our daily life. To help you fix what may be starting to break or work quick on something if it’s already broken. You are important and you need to focus on how kick ass your important life is.
The Firelife Gratitude journal is a short read to help you change your focus. It’s set to quickly walk you through living a life of gratitude. I’m serious it’s a a short read. The report part is only 7 pages…then get to using the journal pages that include 100 prompts for journaling. A journal is for writing and I want you to get right to it.
Writing this journal helped remind me why I continue to work on balance. Researching a little bit of the health benefits found to be shared by those that practice a life of gratitude helped solidify yet another reason for me to keep working at it. I’m not perfect and there are days I need the journal to write out my own lists. There are days I need the prompts. Prompts like “I appreciate the sound of…” or “10 things that always make me smile”. Then there are days I just need to sit and look through what I have previously written to be reminded of the things in my life that I've already talked about. There are 100 printable journal pages with prompts to get you focused on a new positive or list of positives each day.
The report part is quick to read because I want you to jump into the “work”. The report is to get you thinking and motivated. Why is living a life of gratitude important for your health? Where will you find this gratitude? How do you start journaling?
I know many people would rather listen than read. I’ve got you covered. You can now listen to the short report as a short audio. 15 minutes and you are inspired to use the journal pages.
It includes 100 journal pages with 100 prompts to print out and start using right now. Plenty of room to doodle and expand on any positives you write down. Plus, you can print out the pages as many times as you like.
If you choose the ALL IN yearly membership here is a list of everything you will get:
- Private Facebook Group for posting and daily inspiration
- Daily prompts in the group
- New printable goal sheet, journal and note pages each month
- Quick gratitude report to get you started
- 100 journal pages with prompts
- Audio of the quick report
- Daily emails sent for 100 days to remind you to post
All of this for only $50
($10 savings from the monthly option + the bonuses)