Are you grumpy?
Are you bitter?
Are you resenting the firelife?
Are you non-stop worried about your firefighter?
Being a firewife means you’ve come to terms a bit with mortality. Whether you hear it through the calls they go on or worry about their safety. The worry is there and you learn to push it aside or it eats you up. Some learn to live with it better than others. It’s all in how you let that worry take over.
That worry should never take over your days. You need to choose to live with no regrets and own your days. Own how you think. Own how you react. Own your happiness.
Positives of being a FireWife
There are so many positives.
- entire bed to yourself
- chickflicks whenever you want
- reading before bed and not annoying anyone with the light
- remote is yours, ALL YOURS
- scheduling girls’ night for shift days or drill night
If you can’t immediately think of things in your life, please go ask your firefighter why they do it. That should quickly jolt your thinking. For me the number one is, he’s doing what he loves. He could have died in a car wreck at anytime while he was on that horrible commute to the job he hated, but now I know he’s doing what he always wanted to do.
I wrote the Firelife Gratitude journal to help you focus on the positives in your daily life. To help you fix what may be starting to break or work quick on something if it’s already broken. You are important and you need to focus on how kick ass your important life is.
The Firelife Gratitude journal is a short read to help you change your focus. It’s set to quickly walk you through living a life of gratitude. I’m serious it’s a a short read. The report part is only 7 pages…then get to using the journal pages that include 100 prompts for journaling. A journal is for writing and I want you to get right to it.
The journal isn’t everything included. A real switch takes place when you take it public. You’ll have access to the private Facebook group where we all post things we are grateful for each day. If you’re having a rough day it’s a great place to stop by and be reminded that your day wasn’t entirely bad.
Why you need to practice gratitude:
- It reminds you what is good in the world
- It reminds you what is good in your community
- It reminds you what is good in your house
The reason you should know this gratitude:
- You will continue the good in your house and expand on it.
- You will see the good in your community and work to help it.
- You will find the good in the world and push yourself to better it.
My name is Val Selby and I’ve been in the firelife since 2000. Starting as a volunteer wife when our kids were only 3 & 1. There was no where to go for support and neither of us had any idea what we were getting into. For 9 years I held down the house as he worked a ton in his construction job with a horrible commute and then also worked a busy volunteer station. Those of you that love a volunteer firefighter understand that frustration. It’s hard to find the positives when you feel like you are drowning most days.
In 2007 he was hired on and we jumped into a giant transition. 24, 48, 72 hours without him home, then holy crap all the other days of him being HOME. Constant adjustment and that is something that never ends in the firelife. Unfortunately being hired on brought more fears. Fears that were justified when our Chief died in a wildfire. Fears that I had put out of my head because stuff happens in other departments, not in our little department.
At that time I had already chosen to live a life of no regrets because of losing some family members I was close to. But the next two years were a huge test to our marriage and for me personally. I focused on all the negative around me. I was not a nice person to be around.
I’d say I’m usually ok with firefighter’s career and have adjusted pretty well to our daughter following in her Dad’s footsteps. The fact that our girl is a wildland firefighter throws more reasons in my life to be negative and let the worry surround me. It would be easy for me to freak out every single day from June through September that our wildland princess is in danger. But, I can’t live that way. I refuse to live that way.
Those that know me, know I’m not going to tell you that every day is unicorns and rainbows. But, that’s why we have to focus on even the smallest positive every day. We can’t get smothered by the firelife.
Writing this journal helped remind me why I continue to work on balance. Researching a little bit of the health benefits found to be shared by those that practice a life of gratitude helped solidified yet another reason for me to keep working at it. I’m not perfect and there are days I need the journal to write out my own lists. There are days I need the prompts. Prompts like “I appreciate the sound of…” or “10 things that always make me smile”. Then there are days I just need to sit and look through what I have previously written to be reminded of the There are a 100 printable journal pages with a prompt to get your focused on a new positive or list of positives.
I know living with gratitude works. I know from personal experience. Here are other firewives that live the same way and have used the Firelife Gratitude journal:
How It Works
The Firelife Gratitude journal is just the starting point. I’m hoping you will join in the daily gratitude challenge on the Facebook group. Life gets ugly and we combat it by posting everything good in our day. Big stuff like the kids getting into college. Little stuff like you got 5 minutes to drink your coffee in peace. We want to hear about it all. I can’t even put a value on the Facebook group thanks to the wonderful women that post regularly.
The report part is quick to read because I want you to jump into the “work”. The report is to get you thinking and motivated. Why is living a life of gratitude important for your health? Where will you find this gratitude? How do you start journaling?
I know many people would rather listen than read. I’ve got you covered. You can now listen to the short report with a short audio. 15 minutes and you are ready to use the journal pages.
It includes 100 journal pages with 100 prompts to print out and start using right now. Plenty of room to doodle and expand on any positives you write down. Plus, you can print out the pages as many times as you like.
I refuse to just let you purchase and then fade away. I want to see you use it. So join the private Facebook group and post daily. Our little group is already at 38 members, many postings daily to share their gratitudes. I’m also going to email you daily with prompts to remind you to get to journaling.
So quick recap of what is included:
- Instantly downloadable 7 page report
- Audio of the report for easy listening
- 100 printable journal pages with 100 daily prompts to spark positive journaling
- Private Facebook group to post a daily gratitude and get inspiration from others posting
- Daily emails with prompts to remind you to journal