Have Patience With Me.
The initial 7 years were as a vollie wife and he had no one else to talk to but me. We had some married years and dating year before the firelife started and I do think that helped a lot as we already had worked through (some) communication issues. We made this journey 100% together.
Debriefing, For Me?
I love my position as a FireWife.
Not for the IAFF sticker or license plate on my car. I'm proud because I have a king that gladly carries my big ass, heavy crown and would never ask me to take jewels off it and change who I am. He recognizes that I'm also carrying his heavy crown.
I don't want to change what led him to want to be a firefighter. To wish different would mean a man that wasn't able to carry my crown and we wouldn't have made it this far.
I know it's because I've always been too much for many that I am able to come towards the end of his career and not resent all of the time alone or focus on things we could have done instead of the many things we have.
Living a life of no regrets,