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Firewife Retreat and Conference Waitlist

We've been talking about it and it's time to get serious. I need to find out how many are truly interested and able to attend a retreats, so I can find the right size house to rent. Please, also sign up to the waitlist if you are interested in a firewife conference. I...

The Stepmom Coach Black Friday Deals

A month ago I did a Facebook live with my friend Claudette - The Stepmom Coach to talk about her "Becoming A More Confident Stepmom" ecourse that was included in a bundle we were both participating in. I know many of you FireWives are stepmoms and could use the...

Fitness and Choices

You have the perfect plan in place and the house is full of healthy foods. You are READY to rock this new fitness and weight loss. You get after it. Week one is hard, but you do it. Week two? The kids have practice every day this week. There are two basketball games....

It Can Be Hard To Set Smart Goals

Did you set a big goal this New Years? You were going to get it done in 2018. How many times in the past have you set a huge goal such as to lose 50 pounds or exercise 5 days a week, only to fall off the wagon a few weeks (or usually days) later? Why did you fail? A...

Mind Over Matter!

Mind over matter!  I find myself clinging to that mantra a lot as a FireWife.  Especially with the history my firefighter husband and I endured.  The past can never truly be buried deep enough.  It always seems to nudge it's way through my thoughts as I go about my...

working through tough calls as a firewifeSome time ago, my husband and I went through a rough patch in our marriage. I was shaken and scared of what waited ahead for us, and he was stubborn and unmovable. This all happened over a very busy weekend.

The following Monday, was a scheduled meeting with his volunteer fire department. Hours went by, and he still wasn’t home. I was still hurt and upset, and happened to be talking to my mom on the phone, (because sometimes only Momma can comfort you) when my firefighter called.

He asked why I hadn’t replied to his text. I was confused. What text? It had never gone through. So he tells me, it was a bad call. A minor was involved. He sounded numb and I didn’t know what to say.

As hurt as I was, my heart hurt even more for my husband in that moment. An hour later, he walked in, dropped his keys, and came over and broke down in my arms. By that time, local news stations had covered the call, so I was up to speed and I cried with him, both for myself, and for him as he handled that call. I remember how he went to the fridge and grabbed a beer, and sat down in his chair. I wanted to discuss our problems within our marriage, but in that moment, I asked, “do you want to tell me about it?”. All the difference was made in that moment. He spilled out what had happened and how it had affected him, and then he went into the problems within our marriage, without me prompting him.

That tough call came while we were going through a tough time, but with patience, selflessness, and a love that put the other first, we overcame that call and the rough patch together. Today, we are stronger than ever, and when he comes in from a bad call, no matter what, I ask him the same question.  He doesn’t always say yes, and I’ve had to learn patience as he processes the calls on his own, but the times he’s said yes, have brought us even closer and made our love so much sweeter.

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